Dating Apps - The Good, The Bad And The Ugly


Ah, dating apps. Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Bumble, Meet Me - do I really need to name more? You'll be familiar with at least one of them, even if you've never had to use it yourself. Lucky you. I've tried  them all, believe me. I already had this post drafted weeks ago but recently read a blog post about the type of guys you'll find on Tinder (for the life of me I cannot find this blogger, ugh.) Her post was completely accurate and I thought right, time to give my opinion on the online dating world because honestly, it is quite something. 
I don't mean an amazing something, oh no. More like you'll come away probably disturbed and shocked by what some men will comment either about you or to you. Now, I'd tell single friends to try it and if you don't like it then delete the app, simple. Like it never happened. 

So if you read my recent post on closure and moving on, you'll know I've been single over a year now. It's been a very quick year, something I thought I wouldn't be saying. During this time I've met a fair few guys and been on dates, some I wish had ended sooner than they had. Nothing worse than getting dressed up and the minute you see your date you know it's going to be a disaster. Some I've met and been on three or so dates until I realise that there really is no connection and there's no point moving forward or wasting each other's time. My point here is not every man you encounter on these apps is just after sex, but don't get me wrong it does seem like 99.9% are. Surprisingly I've had friends manage to find the love of their lives on these apps - how? I do not know. Luck maybe? 

With social media and these dating apps both men and women are pretty much spoilt for choice when it comes to dating. I remember watching Imogen on Youtube and she mentioned in one of her videos that a guy doesn't even need to ask for a girls number anymore, he can just message her (or slide in the DMs if that's your term.) Sad reality which kind of kicked in when I heard her say that being perfectly honest.

Now, what I love is reading about is 'the type of guys on Tinder' because they're nothing other than accurate. Here's my take on it, from experience of course - what else?

Here for a good time, not a long time. Alright Prince Charming, straight to the point. Read that as 'here for sex, with no commitment' okay then. I've lost count of how many times I've read that in bio's. No, seriously.

His main profile picture is him and his adorable dog. A guys way to gain more interest. Being honest, I would date you for the dog. Especially if you're holding a pug. But just so were clear, I have no interest in you. Just the dog. Okay? Okay.

At least three shirtless photos and two in the gym. Okay, I get it. You love yourself. You know you're hot. Moving on...

The kid in the photo is just my niece. LIAR. I've actually experienced this where after we started talking we briefly spoke about the girl in his pictures and said 'oh, btw she's my daughter. Me and the ex are on good terms.' No, no and no.

I just want us to watch Netflix and cuddle. No you don't. I actually recently had guy say this to me and asked me to go round his that evening because his parents were away. When I questioned him if he was just after sex he stated exactly 'nope, we can just chill and cuddle.' Was I born yesterday? A polite decline, block and delete was what followed for him - Bless. Oh, don't get me started on those 3am calls asking to come round for a cuddle too. Just a cuddle? Yeah right. What's funny is when I've said to them 'you mean sex don't you.' they've responded with 'no,no,no just a cuddle.' Ok hun.

I would. Oh is this an alternative for 'hey, how's it going' now? I don't think so, you won't be getting a response from me. Oh and what's not much better is a fire emoji with the smirking face emoji combo. Have you forgot your words love? Next.

Bizarre collection of photos. On the toilet, cigarette in his hand, his middle finger up in the air - not all at once, but I wouldn't be surprised if I saw this. Are some women attracted to this? Really? Baffled

Would you rather? I've had to actually put in my bio now to not ask me these type of questions in hope that it doesn't happen again, oh but it will. I was once asked a question that started with 'would you rather choke on a piece of popcorn or...' I can't remember the rest. No 'Hi, Hello, Hey how's it going?' Just that. What the actual f is going on here. Am I really supposed to answer this? Really?! 

Every photo on their profile is him amongst his six other mates. So which one are you? Am I supposed to waste my time playing a game of what feels like Where's Wally? Oh and 9/10 when you have established which one he is, he's the least good looking. Just talking from experience y'know...

I don't think I need to explain anymore types on these apps, you'll know for yourself or get to know - maybe. I could write an on-going list, with explicit details of other experience but who want's to read that. This is what I mean by disturbed. If you're on Twitter read the threads, they'll have you lolling for sure.

I'd also like to say that I came off the online dating sites a couple of months ago. I didn't realise how time consuming these were, I honestly spent any spare second I had scrolling or swiping for guys. For the first time since my break-up I'm very content being single (something I thought I wouldn't be saying anytime soon.) I'm in no rush to meet anyone but if it happens I'd rather it feel natural than forced... so we'll see what the future holds hmm.

I'd love to hear about your experience with dating apps - comment below or message me on socials ♡.

What's your opinion?

  1. This was such a good read. I've never used any dating apps myself but some of the stories my friends tell me are hilarious. I wish you the best of luck in the dating world x

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    1. Haha, I can only imagine the stories your friends have told you. Why thank you - we'll see what happens in the future eh x

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  2. I am one if the lucky few that have never had to go through the cesspool that is dating apps and am really glad for that fact haha. That said I did meet my husband online anyways but I feel like the best relationships seem to come along when we are happy with ourselves and not really looking honestly!

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    1. Isn't it odd how these things happen? I've heard a lot of people say that 'you'll find someone when you're not looking.' I think it's a case of whatever happens, happens. I'm not looking anytime soon, that's for sure. Thanks for giving the post a read x

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  3. Your post is awesome! I got into it! It’s like I need you to go on more dates so I can read more of your blog post! This was a great read!

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    1. Thank you Shayla. Haha, I won't be going on dates for a while. If I do I'm sure I'll have some stories to tell.

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  5. I've had a look at dating apps but haven't really properly used them, but from my experience, oh my god you really summed up all the types you find on there!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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    1. Oh they are quite something. They're quite an experience I'd say.. gives a whole new perspective on dating. Steer clear haha! xx

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